Healthier New Year Resolution #5 – Manage Stress Better
Stress can really be detrimental to one’s health, and so if you are trying to decide on a New Year’s resolution, then one you should definitely consider is to learn how to manage stress better. Managing stress makes the #5 in our Healthier New Year Resolution series.
Learning how to manage stress better both in your personal and professional life will really pay off in spades, and not only be good for your health but also for those around you.
Stress In Relationships
One of the most common places that people experience stress is in their relationships. Relationship stress causes some of us to get angry and say things that we don’t mean, and often times we end up hurting the ones that we love. A lot of the time you will realize that you are not even actually mad at your partner, but instead at something going on in your life, but you then end up taking it out on them. It is important that you remember this when you get frustrated and learn about ways that you can deal with your stress and anger without taking it out on the ones that you love.
The first thing you should do is learn how to focus internally. In other words, you want to focus attention on your internal state, in spite of any external demands that are going on. For instance if you find that you are angry with your partner and you are beginning to fight, take a minute to calm down and relax, and think about why you are actually mad. Not only will this help you to realize if you are actually mad with them or about something else going on, but it will also help you to clear your head and focus. There is really nothing that is going to be solved by you getting angry with your partner, and instead you are only going to end up making things worse.
Recognizing inappropriate behaviors in your relationships is also very important, and learning how to feel stable will be incredibly helpful in terms of getting you to avoid negative thinking. Conserving your energy is a good step, as a lack of internal controls can leave you feeling drained, and you really want to do your best to stay calm in these situations. There are many other emotions and feelings that you will experience if you keep yourself feeling calm, and this includes a heightened sensory awareness, curiosity, playfulness, creativity, flexibility, resilience, and sensitivity to the needs of others.
Stress In Professional Life
You may feel stressed out in your personal life, but more than anything people find that they have difficulties dealing with their professional life. Few people actually enjoy working, and especially since it takes time away from the ones that they love. We all know what pressure is like at work what with having to get up early and meet those deadlines. There are things that you can do however to help deal with stress at work, and this includes adopting a healthy lifestyle for one. If you eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly you are going to be feeling a great deal better and this will show in your day to day living. You may still have to deal with the same annoying tasks at work but you will be able to deal with them better because you are feeling so much better about yourself in general.
You also should learn to accept the things that you cannot change. For instance if you are in a job that you absolutely detest, waking up frustrated and angry about having to go into work each morning is not going to be benefiting you in any way. Instead, try to find something positive or uplifting about your job and use this to make yourself even remotely interested to head into work each morning. Taking time out to rest and relax is also critical here, and if you do not want to get burnt out then it is vital that you take a reasonable amount of time each day or even each week to calm down and take a breathe. Even just hanging out and laughing with friends will help you to feel better and you will perform much better both in your personal and professional life after a much needed break.
Although men and women address stress somewhat differently, remember that friends and family are going to be most important in these sorts of situations, no matter if you’re a woman or a man. If you want to relax and feel better about yourself then you are going to want to have a good support group around you. Friends and family help you to see things in a different way and so if you do become stressed, even though you may not think it, the best idea is to engage yourself in some form of physical or social activity.