September 11, 2001 – Is It Worth Remembering?
There are things in life that you wish you have control of. Disasters would be a good example. You will always hear people say during these times “If only I could do something”, knowing that there is nothing to be done. It is as if the Lord has asked for it, planned it; used His resources to make these things happen.
Ten years ago, September 11, 2001, a tragedy that changed the world had happened. There was a simultaneous four-series suicide attacks occurred in New York and Washington D.C. A total number of two thousand nine hundred ninety six have died, their families grieving, crying their hearts out for their unfortunate relative. Just the thought of it brings shiver and fear in mind.
Ten years after, September 11, 2011, people are still haunted by this shaking event. There is a ceremonial being held in ground zero for the people died, a tribute perhaps. But is this tragic event worth remembering? Does remembering re-traumatize or strengthen our resilience?
There is a saying that to memorialize is the most natural of human traditions besides being the most special. But does this include the unfortunate events that happened? Maybe. Relatives of dead family members for example, will always put space here on Earth for their lost loved one. That’s why we have cemeteries or altars or crosses you see on the side of the road. These are their ways of saying that they love and respect them and will forever remember them.
In fact, there was a monument created for the lives that have lost in 9/11. It gives not just emotional impact but also educational impact for those who have gone there. It shows that even a great tragedy has happened, we can always learn from it.
But not all people are strong enough to remember. There may be some who use these memorials as a healthy, healing role. They cry for a while then realize that it is just a part of the cycle of life so they move on. But moving on does not mean they don’t love their lost love one anymore, it just means that life will be consistently accompanied by death. Some cannot take this. They have trouble in coping, so memorials and death anniversaries will just add to the pain they’re carrying. These kinds of people would need their family’s support more than ever.
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So is 9/11 worth remembering? People may have different answers to this question. There are actually a lot of things that 9/11 reflects. The event emulates not just a terrible event but also bravery and camaraderie of people. Do not forget that a lot of ordinary people had turned “heroes” ten years ago. People rescuing strangers, people praying for the lives of strangers, people showing nationalism. Apparently, the families of the people who died on 9/11 and rescue workers say that they do not want that day forgotten. For them anniversaries and memorials about the tragedy is good because if there is none, it would mean that the lives of their lost family member were not worthy and meaningless. They say their relatives deserve a mark in this world, for their lives are the reason why people have become “heroes”, nationalistic, from that time until now.
Most have healed, but some still grieves. May be confront the reminders without being overwhelmed and set them aside without feeling guilty is something that is hard to learn for those who are still grieving. Their living families should always be on their side, remind them that the present is more important than the past and life must go on. Assure them that there will always be a rainbow after a rain.