Are You The Woman That Men Adore?
Most people would think that this topic is really easy because all men love beautiful women. All you need to do is make yourself beautiful and a long queue of men would present themselves at your door. That may be true if you are really gorgeous but would these men take you home to their parents?
Would any one seriously adore you as a person of value? What are some of the attributes in a woman that men adore?
Beyond A Beautiful Face
In ancient Greece, the unfaithful Helen of Troy was known as the face that launched a thousand ships. Even though all men like beautiful women, they do not need a Helen of Troy as a wife. Therefore, you do not need to have exceptional beauty to attract your man. However, you do need to ‘look good’. The truth is no matter how ‘common’ a woman might look, she can still ‘look good’. Looking good does not mean that you have to weigh 80 pounds and look like a catwalk model.
Most men would find a woman attractive if she generally looks healthy, with a nice face, clear skin and well groomed hair. Her general appearance is tidy; her teeth are clean, no bad breath, no foul body odor or over-powering perfume smell. Even though men would first evaluate you by your external appearance, ultimately it would still be your character and personality that really captivate and keep your man.
Celebrate Your Femininity
Men are generally attracted to women who exude feminine gentleness and sweet softness. Subconsciously, men consider the ‘feminine’ woman to possess the right qualities in becoming a wife and mother of their children. Most men do not want to marry a ‘masculine’ woman because they simply do not want to marry another ‘man’. Therefore, coarse behavior such as cursing and swearing may make you ‘one of the guys’ but it seldom enhances your chances of becoming a man’s life partner.
Your femininity will awake the male’s natural instinct to look after, defend and protect you. This is the beauty of male-female interdependent relationship. Many women throw away this strong bond of interdependence, thinking that this is an expression of weakness.
Meekness is not weakness but strength. A man finds comfort in the fact that his woman needs him as much as he needs his woman. A ‘feminine’ woman brings great gratification to her man because she gives him the privilege of loving, caring and cherishing her. Just remember that men like to feel needed too. Celebrate your femininity and your man will never let you go!
A Loving Woman Is a Lovely Woman
The psychological vulnerability that most men have is the strong need to be loved by a woman who is emotionally tough and dependable. Their subconscious mind would not allow them to forget the first love experience they had with a woman – their mother. Since infancy and childhood, the mother’s love would have left an indelible mark in their heart. No matter how old the man is, he wants his woman to love him without reservation and make him feel alright.
When his integrity or self-worth is being attacked by the cruel world, he wants to come back to the safety and comfort of his woman. He needs his woman to help him restore his confidence in himself again and that he is worth something.
If you nurture him but would stand up against his excesses, he will recognize the true love that you have for him. Therefore, if you were to be a loving woman to your man and he will, in turn, see you as the loveliest woman in the whole universe.
A Great Wing-Woman
If your man is in his twenties, he is in the most vulnerable time of his life. He has not many accomplishments but yet he needs to feel that he can contribute to society. There will be moments when he doubts his own gifts and talents. He will have solemn instances when he does not even know about his position in life. That is when he needs a good wingman or wing-woman. He needs someone who believes in him and makes him look good in front of his peers and his boss.
A good wing-woman does not nag but gives objective advice. She listens to his struggles without making fun of him or putting him down. She is his mirror and apart from reflecting his flaws, she also points out his good qualities. She is proud of him and even prouder to be his woman. Therefore, if you make your man shine in front of others, he will in turn do the same for you.
Sense of Humor
Too often, women would come across as uptight and lack a good sense of humor. Nowadays, most career women are becoming too serious and bothered by too many minor issues. In their effort to climb the corporate ladder, they become afraid of revealing their vulnerability and lost their sense of humor. Men enjoy being in the company of women who are sociable and able to lighten up. They want a relaxing relationship and so their ideal choice of life partners would usually be women who are able to enjoy a good time with them.
Respect and Be Respected
When you show respect while talking to your man or about him to other people, you would be projecting confidence and maturity. On the other hand, you have to decide that you will not tolerate being disrespected.
Women, who make it clear at the very beginning of a relationship, that they would not accept being misused, abused or disregarded, usually gain the keen attention of the true gentleman. Even the non-gentlemen would respect a woman with whom they cannot mistreat or exploit.
Respect is earned and it cuts both ways. To be a woman whom both men and women respect, you should never date anyone who verbally threatens or physically abuses you.
You will find the right man by first being the right woman. Once you found your man, you have the power to motivate and challenge him to a higher height in his career and life. Be loving, caring and understanding and you will find that true love is attainable.
Do you think that these characteristics are far too idealistic, or do you think that it is exactly what every woman should be? Share your thoughts!